Don't scold your child, do this instead

Research has shown that scolding can have detrimental effects on a child’s emotional and cognitive development. According to a study published in the Journal of Child Development, children who are frequently scolded or yelled at are more likely to develop anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. This is because scolding activates the child’s fight-or-flight response, causing stress hormones like cortisol to spike. Over time, this repeated stress can lead to changes in brain structure, particularly in areas involved in emotion regulation and memory.

A child who is scolded often may also internalise the message that they are "bad" or "unworthy," which can affect their self-image and behaviour long-term. Instead of correcting the behaviour, scolding can reinforce negative feelings, leading to a cycle of misbehaviour and further scolding. This cycle can be damaging, making it essential for parents to find alternative ways to discipline.