Tips on how to influence people

Jan 15, 2024

Aakanksha Sharma

15 lessons to learn

Dale Carnegie and his book ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ are known far and wide. The legacy of that book and the lessons it taught people and continues to teach even today are no less than laws that should be preserved and abided by for a successful life.

Making interactions easier

Here we list 15 tips from the author and his famous book to make interactions and relationships easier for you.

Smile

Smiling makes people feel welcome and creates a positive atmosphere. And it is always best to greet others with a genuine smile for it is a universal sign of friendliness.

Don't complain and criticise

Both complaining and criticising create negativity and push people away. Try to avoid it as much as possible. But, if there is a real problem, focus on solutions instead and offer constructive feedback.

Be friendly

Friendliness can come out in many ways and it helps foster a warm and open environment. Approach others with a kind attitude and pleasant smile which will in turn help break barriers and encourage connection.

Ask questions

Instead of being chatty about yourself, ask questions. It shows interest and engagement. Start small and ask about their day, experiences, or opinions to make them feel valued.

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Admit mistakes

If you feel you are wrong somewhere, admit it. Admitting mistakes builds trust and credibility and it shows that you are a humble person who acknowledges errors and learns from them.

Take account of their POV

In a world where everyone is busy putting their POVs forward, it is important to understand other people's perspectives. This promotes empathy and harmony in the relationship. Plus, when you put yourself in their shoes, you respect them and broaden your understanding.

Praise them

Who does not need some validation and appreciation? Praising boosts confidence and strengthens relationships. When you acknowledge their achievements or efforts sincerely, this helps them be a better person for they feel someone is rooting for them.

Be a good listener

Listening is a skill very few have but it shows great respect and validates the other person’s thoughts. So, focus on what they're saying, avoid interrupting, and respond thoughtfully.

Respect their opinion

Everyone has unique perspectives and respecting others' opinions builds rapport. Even if you disagree, express your thoughts courteously and find a common ground between the two ideas or thoughts.

Be honest

Honesty is the best policy and also the foundation of trust between two people. Speak truthfully, even if it's uncomfortable, and see how this approach builds your credibility between people and groups.

Appreciate them in public

Public appreciation and open praise of your partner or friends are great when it comes to boosting morale. So, try to recognise their contributions and things they did right in group settings to help them build confidence.

Use their name

The concept of ‘What's in a name?’ does not apply everywhere. Using someone's name adds a personal touch and enhances your connection to them. Also, addressing people by their names shows attentiveness by telling them you remember them.

Ask about their interests

While a two-way conversation is ideal, if you are in a new setting discussing their interests first will help build a genuine connection. Learn about their hobbies and passions and engage in conversations about them.

Don't argue

Arguments are the root cause of tensions and hinder understanding. So, when you feel something is wrong, express your views calmly and avoid angry confrontations.

Make them feel precious

Feeling important is a fundamental human need. Plus, the magic it does on a person’s confidence is amazing. So, whenever you can, acknowledge their worth, and contributions and make them feel valued.

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