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Signs of gaslighting
Gaslighting is not always loud and obvious. It often creeps in quietly, masked as love, care, or concern. Over time, it distorts your sense of self and reality. Here we list six sly tactics a gaslighter uses to gain control— subtly step by step. Awareness is your first weapon. Let’s dive into how it happens and what to look out for.
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Manipulating reality
It starts with small lies. You’re told that what you saw didn’t happen or that what you remember is incorrect. They will deny conversations you had. Over time, you begin to second-guess your thoughts, feelings, and even your senses. Reality feels like quicksand, constantly shifting under your feet. This confusion is the foundation on which gaslighters build control.
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Denial
Even when presented with evidence— screenshots, witnesses, clear facts— the gaslighter simply denies it all. “That never happened,” they say. They shrug off your concerns, call you dramatic, or say you’re overthinking. You begin to wonder: Am I imagining things? This deliberate dismissal isn’t ignorance. It’s a power move meant to erode your trust in yourself and make you depend solely on their version of truth.
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Inconsistent behaviour
Love one day, cruelty the next. Warmth in the morning, cold silence by night. This rollercoaster keeps you emotionally exhausted and unsure. You hang on to the highs, blaming yourself for the lows. You believe if you just act right, you’ll get the love back. But the rules keep changing. The unpredictability isn't random— it’s designed to keep you seeking their approval, constantly on edge.
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Isolation
Slowly, you find yourself cut off. “They’re jealous of us,” the gaslighter might say. Or “Your family doesn’t understand our bond.” You cancel plans and reply less to texts. You feel alone— but strangely safer that way. The gaslighter becomes your only point of reference. Without your support system, it’s easier for them to twist your reality and harder for you to leave or recognize the abuse.
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Coercion
When conflict arises, it always ends with you giving in—for the sake of “peace.” You’re told you're the reason things went wrong, that you need to fix it. You fear rejection, abandonment, or emotional withdrawal. So, you apologize, even when you did nothing wrong. The gaslighter controls the terms of resolution, leaving you stuck in a loop of submission, constantly seeking the reconciliation they define.
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Creating self-doubt
You start to doubt your every move. Your confidence is chipped away, your decisions feel flawed. You may think: Maybe I am too sensitive. Maybe I am hard to love. The gaslighter subtly (and sometimes not-so-subtly) plants these seeds of self-loathing. With your self-esteem eroded, you become more dependent on their validation, unable to see how powerful and worthy you truly are.
Gaslighting thrives in silence and confusion. But knowledge breaks that power. If any of these stages feel familiar, know this: You’re not crazy, and you’re not alone. Emotional abuse is real, and healing begins with reclaiming your truth. Speak up, reach out, and remember—your voice matters. Always.
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